What’s going on in your relationship? Are you single? Are you coupled? With the shift in the earth’s frequencies now, relationships are changing. Many are struggling and even ending as what does not work, what is not aligned, is no longer sustainable. New relationships are forming as we are clearer on who we are and what is essential. The choice to be single at the time or indefinitely is more widely desirable, or the preference to seek a relationship has become a priority where it may not have been before.
Whatever your circumstances, the truth is the same: Relationships teach more about ourselves—doing the inner work both solo and as a couple makes a relationship healthier, stronger, and more fulfilling. It helps you recognize your fears and traumas to be for healing. You become aware of your behaviors that contribute to the dynamics. As you do the work, you make healthier choices in partners, and you are a healthier partner as well. If you are single, you are more fulfilled in life and are more selective if you decide to embark on a relationship.
Here are a few of my favorite resources, whatever your relationship status:
Attached by Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel S.F Heller M.A.
We all have attachment styles that impact how we react and respond in relationships and the relationships we choose. There are three primary attachments: Secure, Anxious, or Avoidant. This book explains what each means in simple, clear terms, how to identify yourself and your partner(s)’ style, how your style influences your relationships, and how to make healthier choices.
Dr. Sue Johnson’s work is also good. She teaches Emotionally Focused Therapy which helps you recognize when you are triggered, the role that plays in communication, and how to have healthier interactions. There are many good books about attachment styles and EFT so search around for what is appealing.
Conscious Loving; the Journey top Co-Commitment by Gay Hendricks Ph.D. and Kathlyn Hendricks Ph.D
The authors explain what co-commitment means and offer seven steps to this practice: 1. Commitment, 2. Learning to love yourself, 3. Learning to feel, 4. Claiming creativity, 5. Learning to tell microscopic truth 6. Keeping your agreements, and 7. Learning to live in a state of continuous positive energy. In other words, dealing with your “stuff” both individually and collectively. They also talk about the dynamic of the “Upper Limits Problem,” which, in their words, is “the only problem you need to solve in a co-committed relationship.”
The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
This book is one of my favorites. You can apply these agreements to all relationships and, in fact, all interactions with others, even strangers. He lists them as:
Be impeccable with your word
Don’t take anything personal
Don’t make assumptions
Always do your best
Sure, these sound simple, but he goes into detail on what each means, its impact, and how to practice these agreements for more peace, fulfillment, and harmony.
There is a great deal of material to help us create healthier relationships with ourselves and others. These are just a few. Your relationship with yourself dictates your relationship with others. Do the work, and you will be happier, healthier, and more fulfilled, whether single, coupled, or somewhere between.
About Julie Farha
As an intuitive, empath, speaker, teacher, author, and host of Woo News TV, Julie has helped people all over the globe in private sessions and group events. Julie’s authentic insight into people’s lives connects them to an accurate intuitive assessment of their circumstances. Her 30+ years of spiritual practice have included energy work, various meditation practices, in-depth studies of metaphysics, personal growth concepts, and above all… trusting her intuition. She resides in Scottsdale, Arizona. You can find her at www.WooNews.tv